Is there a rhythm to your life that revolves around your own self-care? Our lives are full of rhythms – the rhythm of breathing, the seasons, our heartbeat to name a few. These rhythms play out their music without our even knowing it and often times without our intentional participation. We often say something is as natural to us as breathing meaning that we really don’t have to think about it to do it.
I wish the same were true about self-care especially for women. Sometimes I think men have a self-care rhythm all planned out for them in the sports seasons and schedules. Watching the game is a rhythm for many guys and it is a self-care rhythm that many plan their weekends/lives around. I just realized how much I envy women who follow a sports team on a regular basis…it’s because it is a self-care rhythm I don’t have.
Last week I talked about ways to pamper yourself with some actions that could easily be established as rhythms of self-care. The rhythm of sleeping and waking, the rhythm of exercise, the rhythm of scheduling down time or spa time, the rhythm of fun are all ways to get a tempo of time for yourself going in your life.
Too often I find my rhythm of self-care is badly out of tempo and I am definitely marching to the beat of someone else’s drum. Or, the beat I am listening to is one that says that if I take care of myself I am being selfish, negligent in my duties toward others, or will lose my edge in my business. So, I keep marching without realizing how much I am losing by always pushing myself, or how selfish I really am when I work to please others in order to feed my ego needs or how negligent I am in becoming run down physically. When I do realize it, it’s usually because I have made a major mistake, overstepped my bounds, or fallen ill.
Many of us need to change the rhythm of that voice in our head that pushes us to keep moving when our bodies and spirit are protesting loud and clear. Change your mantra’s driving rhythm from ‘I have to do one more thing’ to ‘I will take time for myself ‘. Make doing and resting part of your daily rhythm until it is as natural as breathing.
Now, I’m going to seriously look into a sport I can follow!