A dear friend of mine died yesterday. Sandra had been battling pancreatic cancer for a year which is unusual for this type of cancer. In this year she took a slow and easy approach to life. Because the treatment was quite draining she didn’t have the energy to do much. At one point she told me that she was quieting herself and in that quieting finding a great deal of peace, strength, life and joy.
Her discovery of this inner life full of silence, peace and joy became a gift not only to her but to me. When she was tired she rested. When she wanted to read and delve deeper into a topic she read. When she wanted to talk, she called. When she wanted to be alone, she went off by herself. When she wanted to understand, she went inside and allowed her spirit to speak to her. When she wanted to go out and be among people, she went out with a mind open to see and discover.
Sandra was a people person. She went out of her way to make life easy for others. She was involved in many things and her love for people was not forced or used for an ulterior motive. Her heart and mind were one.
And she was also honest. Her words to me in the last few months were full of wisdom and warning. “Time for yourself is crucial”, she would tell me. “Don’t wait until you are dying to realize this. Be ready to love with all your heart and laugh with child like wonder at all that is around you. Do your own life’s homework and not someone else’s. Live your life and let others learn their lessons. Do not be afraid to live. If you do, you will not be afraid to die.”
She felt that we are all here ‘for such a time as this’ and that finding our ‘this’ was our purpose. She found hers and I am a better person for knowing her.
I wanted to share Sandra with you because she lived what I try to convey through these blogs…that time for yourself is time well spent and time that will strengthen you for whatever is ahead. Time is a gift to us.