Time4Yourself and Pain

There is an old axiom that goes “There is nothing to be learned from the second kick of the mule”.

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The point being that it is best to learn our lesson the first time.  Ah, if I only would.  Unfortunately, I must admit that I have been kicked by that mule many times before I learn.

And I think what finally makes me learn or at least gets my attention is the pain that ultimately results from enough kicks of that darn mule.   When the pain of my present situation is greater than my fear of changing, then I do something.  How about you?

And for that I (we) must be grateful for pain.  Some pain is essential.  There is no denying it.  It is an indicator to stop and look at what is hurting me(you) and tells me(you) loud and clear that I(you) must do something about it.

Now there are times when my pain tolerance is exceptionally high – not always a good thing.  Some of us wait too long to tend to the pain and it has morphed into something more than emotional or psychic pain into a physical ailment or disease.  Some of us tolerate pain in a relationship until there is nothing left of the relationship to salvage which had been our goal in tolerating the pain all along.  And some of us  begin to assume that pain is the norm and we don’t even realize that it is trying to get our attention.

All of this is to say that if you know there is pain in your life – either physical, emotional, mental or spiritual, it is time to pay attention to it.  What is causing it?  What is the pain trying to tell you?  What needs to be stopped?  What are you gaining from tolerating the pain and what are you losing by tolerating it?

For many busy women simply taking some time for yourself to do a self-assessment, be honest with yourself and begin to care for your ‘aches and pains’ can be a huge step in eliminating the pain all together.

Use the three B’s this week:

1.  Be aware of the pain

2.  Be honest about the cause

3.  Be compassionate with yourself

Don’t beat yourself up over tolerating this pain.  Don’t try to eliminate all at once unless it is a real danger to your health and well-being and don’t talk yourself out of doing something about it.  Start small and persevere, but start.

Be Well,

Nancy

About Nancy A Leport

Nancy is a certified life coach who works with women and men who want to live by design not by default. She coaches amazing, busy, overwhelmed, and stressed people to live the life they want. She helps them get out from under the "should's" and "ought's" of everyone else's opinion to refresh, renew and recreate their bodies, minds and spirits. Isn't it time you gave yourself the gift of a de-stress coach? For more information, please call 585-943-3314
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