So here is the sign we encountered while we were in Santa Fe, NM this past week…it was posted outside a National Monument that was closed due to the government shutdown.
As I read it I thought wouldn’t it be nice if we could hang one of these around our necks when we got to the point where we were ready to shut down?
In our case the appropriation lapse I am talking about would be energy. We are out of energy. Therefore, we are shutting down for a while.
And, of course, that is what happens but often not by choice. It isn’t time that we run out of, it is energy to fill the time.
Like the members of Congress who refuse to do things differently in order to avoid such a shutdown, we too often do the same thing. We just keep doing things the same way over and over expecting different results. Or, like Congress, we forget what the word negotiation means.
So, let’s be smarter than Congress (wouldn’t take much) and look at the ways we are responsible for our own shutdown and how we fail to negotiate for what we need.
Recently, I found myself in a situation where I could have negotiated a different outcome. I chose not to. As a result I ran out of appropriation (energy) and wanted to blame everyone but myself for that. So I shut down, literally and figuratively. It’s not a fun place to be. And, like the government shutdown, it affected more than just me.
One of the things that life keeps presenting to me is re-learning what I have learned before. Many years ago a wide life coach told me “ask for what you need and then negotiate”. I’ve done that from time to time except when I forget. When we ignore our needs time after time, the energy to ask for what we need and then negotiate is diminished. And we head for a shutdown.
Unmet needs drive behavior so paying attention to our needs is important because our behavior influences all the people in our lives. If our behavior is lolling in shutdown mode or anger mode or exhaustion mode, then everyone suffers.
Taking time for ourselves is the best way to avoid behavior that will negatively impact others.
Don’t think you have time to do that? Just remember “ask for you need and then negotiate”. You do not need to carry the entire load all the time. Doing it will give you a different perspective.
You may find that just a few steps away from that moment of hanging that sign around your neck the scenery changes and you are refreshed by what is waiting for you when you turn in a new direction. ~Nancy