By now you have probably read or heard about the mom who went on a vacation by herself leaving her child home with a relative – for 10 days. The internet has been buzzing with everyone weighing in the merits or demerits of her action.
And I am sure you have your opinion about it as well.
So what is all the fuss about? Is it because she doesn’t fit our picture of what a good mother does? Is it because the internet just brings out judgmental people and gives them a forum? Or, is it because she actually did what so many would love to do but feel too guilty to do?
I’ve been writing about the need for time for yourself for years now and the importance of alone time to recharge your batteries especially if you are leading a highly stressful life that leaves you little or no time to yourself.
Taking a breather with the appropriate caregivers in place certainly makes more sense then walking away from everything when your nerves snap! A 10 day or just a mini vacation can do wonders for your mood, decision-making abilities and communication skills.
The statistics just keep piling up about the effect of excessive stress on our physical and mental health. And it isn’t just moms who need to step away from the day-to-day responsibilities. Single, professional women who work non-stop will find that eventually they hit a wall or worse, get sick, because they have ignored the need for rest. Caregivers of elderly parents also need to know when they must step away for everyone’s benefit and replenish their energy.
How close to home did this woman’s action hit for you? When was the last time you took some time away – alone? What is your temperament gauge reading right now? Are you entering the danger zone and about to blow or collapse?
Let go of the guilt and the judgmental voices you hear in your head and do an honest assessment of your need to get away and put a plan into place.
If not now, when?
Go for it,