The truth is no, you are not. No one is. No one ever was and no one ever will be. One of the stories we tell ourselves is that we can do/handle everything on our plate and we can do it well if we just try harder, work harder, and be harder on our self.
And that makes for a very hard life. In my personal experience, it also makes for a very disappointing and stressful life.
So what if instead of playing pretend that we are some kind of super hero in our own life, we were truthful about our limitations. Say what? Isn’t this the day and age of positive affirmations and the can do spirit? Yes it is, but if you buy into the falsehoods that come along with it, then you will find yourself exhausted and always having more to do than you have time for.
Being positive and affirming yourself is exactly how you begin to set better boundaries, understand your limitations and being realistic about what you want to do. It is a matter of living by your design rather than the default setting the culture, your employer, your family or you yourself have placed on you. It is not a matter of taking on more than you can physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually handle.
Here’s a newsflash – we do not live in an ideal world. We are tired. We are overworked. We are over scheduled and we over function to make those around us happy.
So look at your schedule, what can you realistically accomplish? And by realistic I mean what can you do with how you are feeling at the moment. Are your energy centers (physical, emotional, mental and spiritual) depleted? If so, which ones? All of them? What needs your attention in order to feel, think and act in healthy ways?
Put first things first in order of importance not urgency. This means putting yourself first because you are the most important thing in your day. Without a well rested, emotionally stable, mentally alert and spiritually grounded you, there will be no positive, can do you.
Think of yourself as your best friend who is exhausted. You can see what she needs to be at her best. And as her best friend you will be honest with her and tell her the truth of what you see, won’t you?
Well, that best friend is you. Be honest. Tell the truth. Give yourself a break. Enjoy what you do when you do it.