At a celebration recently, a friend and I were lamenting about how often we have chosen not to attend a celebration or be part of a milestone because we were too busy or felt we had better things to do with our time. The lament came as we confessed that we had learned the hard way that you cannot get that time back. There is no way to do a ‘do over’ as kids say. Once that celebration is over, it is gone. The clock has moved on…tic-toc.
We knew we had missed significant things in the lives of family and friends and probably our own lives as well justifying missing it until it was too late to get it back. Since relationships are important to both of us it seemed a bit of a contradiction that we would chance damaging a relationship in order to do some catch up.
For example, have you missed a wedding in order to catch up on lawn work saying you can go to the reception? Or, what about missing that graduation of a special niece or friend because you don’t think you could bear sitting through another boring graduation speech and ceremony? Or, how about not taking that trip for a relative’s retirement or birthday party because you felt you couldn’t possibly leave town? Tic-Toc.
And once those events are over what do you have? A mowed lawn, an afternoon without friends, a justification that leaves a bittersweet taste in your mouth…and no way to get that time back and no memories to store in your heart and mind. Perhaps you also have some strained relationships. Tic-toc.
At the end of your life what do you think you will miss most? The times you mowed the lawn or the look of joy on the bride’s face? The non-boring afternoon without friends or the look of gratitude from the graduate when he/she sees you in the audience? The thrown away invitation or the laughter of a celebration for a life well lived. Tic-toc.
The funny thing about time is you can’t turn the clock back.
It’s tic-toc not toc-tic.
Don’t regret the time you didn’t spend.